There is nothing wrong with having high standards when it comes to our love lives. We all have our own deal breakers; non-negotiables that can either make or break a potential match. It is important not to be too unrealistic however, and assess which of these are of the highest importance to you and set aside the rest, as not everyone is perfect, and if they are, they are probably hiding something!
WORK, WORK, WORK, WORK, WORK….
Any relationship requires plenty of effort, hard work and dedication from both partners in order to function. Having unrealistic expectations for relationships can cause unpleasantness, arguments and chaos. Romance comes in peaks and troughs, and you can’t expect your partner to be romantic all the time as there are other obligations in life. Appreciate the little things that they do for you, such as washing the dishes, making you a delicious meal or cleaning your car. It can’t always be candlelight and roses – but there are plenty of other things you can be grateful for which will make them feel appreciated for being part of your life.
WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES, LEARN TO FORGIVE
Despite having the best intentions, people don’t always necessarily say the right thing. We all make mistakes, and if they aren’t intentionally saying something in an attempt to hurt you, then you should certainly forgive them for not saying what you want to hear. It isn’t healthy for one partner to have to constantly tiptoe around the other person and feel as though they are walking on eggshells because they are so worried about upsetting them by not saying the right thing. Remember that actions speak louder than words, and if they are showing you that they care in other ways then you should not judge them on their words alone!
OBSTACLES AND CHALLENGES MAKE US STRONGER
You could have the most incredible partner in the world, but life is supposed to be a journey and an adventure and you can’t expect for it to always be smooth sailing in your relationship. There will be times when you are faced with obstacles and challenges, and will need to stand by your partner’s side and walk through the fire together. Some of these experiences may not be easy, but if you are willing to face them together, you will be able to grow and strengthen your relationship through them. Expecting a relationship to never face any problems is unrealistic and will cause resentment, as you won’t be prepared to support your partner through the hard times or be there for them when they need you the most. Remember that no relationship is always easy and every partnership requires hard work and commitment.